{"id":2629,"date":"2018-11-27T21:19:41","date_gmt":"2018-11-27T21:19:41","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/brittanypolicastro.com\/?p=2629"},"modified":"2018-11-28T21:53:41","modified_gmt":"2018-11-28T21:53:41","slug":"no-one-can-give-you-a-mind-blowing-orgasm-and-heres-why","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/brittanypolicastro.com\/2018\/11\/27\/no-one-can-give-you-a-mind-blowing-orgasm-and-heres-why\/","title":{"rendered":"No One Can Give You Mind Blowing Orgasms and Here&#8217;s Why&#8230;"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span style=\"font-size: 18pt;\"><em>Have you ever had a sexual relationship where the sex was so good that you couldn&#8217;t help but think that person probably walks on water in their spare time?\u00a0<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n<p>It was so amazing that you kind of wanted to create a bronze statue of their genitals to display on your alter for good luck?<\/p>\n<p>Ok that second one is a little much but I think you get the point.<\/p>\n<p>There are certain sexual connections where the person we are with makes us feel AMAZING.<\/p>\n<p>They see us. They get what turns us on. They have the same desires and kinks. They know the spots that make our bodies SING.<\/p>\n<p>The combination of our energy is palpable, powerful and so effortless.<\/p>\n<p>And often times what happens when a person like this falls into my lap (literally) is that I give my sexual power away to them.<\/p>\n<p>What I mean by this is that I think THEY are the reason I am having amazing orgasms or some of the best sex of my life.<\/p>\n<p>They just have to be really good in bed. Right?<\/p>\n<p>No not really. I don&#8217;t think that&#8217;s how it works.<\/p>\n<p>I think we meet some people we have amazing chemistry with. Someone who makes us feel safe. Someone who make us feel seen and understood.<\/p>\n<p>And often times we also share opposing wounds which add to the attraction because there is a piece of us trying to heal through the connection.<\/p>\n<p>THESE are the pieces that lead to an amazing sexual connection.<\/p>\n<p>But there is also another important ingredient&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>YOU.<\/p>\n<blockquote><p><em><span style=\"font-size: 18pt;\">If you are having amazing sex with someone then consider what YOU are doing. Consider how you are connecting with your body, your needs and your desires. <\/span><\/em><em><span style=\"font-size: 18pt;\">Because it&#8217;s not just them. It&#8217;s YOU.\u00a0<\/span><\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>I no longer think that someone else GIVES me an orgasm. That language is all wrong.<\/p>\n<p>That exchange is a collaborative effort. And if it&#8217;s not and you&#8217;re not having the kind of orgasms you want to be having then consider making it a collaborative effort.<\/p>\n<p>And by this I mean the more I am in tuned with my body and my desires and my own sexuality the more open I am to having mind blowing multiple orgasms.<\/p>\n<p>I&#8217;m talking oxytocin for days.<\/p>\n<p>I think that if we approach our pleasure this way it gives us more agency and power.<\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s been my experience that in this arena we can forget our own power and contribution and give that shit away.<\/p>\n<p>And then as a result if the relationship ends we are left wondering where in the hell we will ever find that kind of chemistry and connection again.<\/p>\n<p>I mean surely lightning doesn&#8217;t strike twice.<\/p>\n<p>But indeed it does.<\/p>\n<blockquote><p><span style=\"font-size: 18pt;\">From my experience there are lots of people that can fulfill my needs, both sexual and emotional and when I get stuck in the quicksand of giving one person all of that power to fulfill me I&#8217;m neglecting my own connection to my body, my needs and my own power.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>So yes celebrate those connections that are beautiful and hot and oh so sexy but remember that YOU are a part of that equation.<\/p>\n<p>And if you called in that kind of amazingness once you can do it again&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Have you ever had a sexual relationship where the sex was so good that you couldn&#8217;t help but think that person probably walks on water in their spare time?\u00a0 It was so amazing that you kind of wanted to create&hellip;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":2630,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"content-type":"","_exactmetrics_skip_tracking":false,"_exactmetrics_sitenote_active":false,"_exactmetrics_sitenote_note":"","_exactmetrics_sitenote_category":0,"_lmt_disableupdate":"","_lmt_disable":"","_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[9],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-2629","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-brittanypolicastro"],"jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/brittanypolicastro.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/Fotolia_226986399_Subscription_Monthly_M.jpg","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/brittanypolicastro.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2629","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/brittanypolicastro.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/brittanypolicastro.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/brittanypolicastro.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/brittanypolicastro.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2629"}],"version-history":[{"count":5,"href":"https:\/\/brittanypolicastro.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2629\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":2636,"href":"https:\/\/brittanypolicastro.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2629\/revisions\/2636"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/brittanypolicastro.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/2630"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/brittanypolicastro.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2629"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/brittanypolicastro.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2629"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/brittanypolicastro.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2629"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}