I did a LOT of pranayama this weekend. That’s breath work. I did a ton.
So it was so surprise to me on Sunday morning after taking a yoga class that as I sat in bed talking with Nick my eyes were alight with the fire of clarity and understanding.
And as much as this happens it always surprises me.
We were talking about our relationship and various factors that influence and affect it. We were questioning and processing some of these factors. Trying to figure out what was best. And then it hit me…
We don’t need to look at the factors and try to figure them out. We need to look at how those factors affect us. Affect our relationship.
In other words it’s so easy to wonder if something is right for us- a relationship, a job, a project, a purchase ect. And as a result we tend to analyze the shit out of whatever we are trying to decipher.
We can pick it apart until it isn’t even what it used to be. And then we have a whole other issue on our hands. In trying to understand something more fully we have torn it apart.
Think about it for a second. We do this all the time. We even do it to ourselves.
Instead of wasting a ton of time dissecting anything it’s much simpler than that. All we need to do is ask this question:
Does (insert your experience here) allow me to thrive? Am I happy? Do I feel like I am choosing this? Does it feel clean?
(By clean I mean energetically. For this you will need to check in with your body. When something isn’t clean you can feel it.)
As long as the answer is yes then keep moving. Sure it may be scary. Sure it may be overwhelming at times. Sure we may question our worthiness. But when we strip that stuff away what’s left? Look there.
And I know what you may be thinking. It’s not that simple. It’s complicated. But that’s just because we make it complicated.
We may need some space and distance and breath but when we get honest with ourselves the truth is always there. Waiting.
For Nick and I, we realized that right now we are thriving. And things feel really good. Even though they look different than in the bulk of our relationship. But that is OK. As long as we are truly feeling good than that will be our barometer.
So freakin’ simple. So much so that it would be so easy to try to complicate it. But the world is full of complications. Especially now. Best keep your life as simple as possible. At least that’s my plan.
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