The Breakthrough Blog Turns Three!

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Three years ago I started typing with a very particular intention- I wanted to document my breakthroughs.

Looking back so many things were about to change in my life. I really think that deep down I knew this and wanted to create an outlet to both process and share my discoveries.

One week later I came out about having HSV and three months after that I opened my relationship.

Being in an open relationship took me a while to share. I knew that while many would be supportive and realize that it was my life and it didn’t actually affect them and it was safe for them to be happy for me, I knew that others would be judgemental AF. And I was right.

If I’m being honest, dynamics in certain relationships have changed permanently as a result of coming out about being Polyamorous.

But I don’t regret sharing this truth even for a second.

I can’t imagine living and breathing through a life where I am not completely open about who I am, how I love and who I love. I just won’t do it. So if certain people in my life have a hard time with that, well then that is on them.

But it’s fascinating, when I came out about having herpes EVERYONE was so supportive but when I came out about being Polyamorous not everyone was.

While both have tons of misinformed information and stigma, I see the difference in the energy of choice. Seems to me like people have more of an issue with things they think we can “choose” to be as opposed to things that we can’t control.

I call bullshit on all of it.

People can be who they are and some things they choose and some things are so deeply rooted in their souls, their hearts, their cells and their DNA that it really isn’t a choice. They were literally born that way. So really the only way to approach other people is to accept them.

Writing about all of this stuff has been so helpful in allowing me to process my own personal evolution.

But also what I’ve learned over time from the comments and DMs and emails and texts I’ve received over the years is that my blog does something else too.

It offers a raw and honest perspective that reminds people that they aren’t alone in how they are feeling. That there is someone who gets it. And that they needn’t feel ashamed. Because shame is just a vehicle for keeping our shadows tucked away so they can control us from the inside out. And nobody has time for that.

So while my blog may not be reaching millions or even thousands every single week (although some have but normally it’s more like hundreds), I still see it as an immense success.

Because I write this blog for me. And I write this blog for you, whoever you may be.

I write it from my heart and it doesn’t matter how well it does, what matters is that it reaches the hearts of those who need it the most.

If you are one of those beautiful hearts, thank you for reading.

And, in true Breakthrough Blog tradition, next week I will be sharing a whopper of a post.

I didn’t plan this in the beginning, it just sort of happened that around this time each year I’d have a big share that was ready to burst from my heart, pour into my fingertips, into the keys and onto the page.

The first year I wrote about having herpes, the year after that it was about opening my relationship, last year it was about being bisexual.

So stay tuned next week.

This isn’t a post I’m afraid of sharing but it’s one that I certainly am READY to put out there, once again going against the grain of what is expected of me and a woman.

And deep gratitude for all of you who have read my words, commented on them and offered your love and support in any way. Truly it means the world to me.