5 Tips for When You’re Taking on Too Much and That’s the Way It Has to Be For the Moment…

Recently I was talking with a client about how much energy we can gather for ourselves when have good, clear boundaries. 

She was straight up kicking ass in this department and could feel the contrast of how drained she felt the week before.

Meanwhile my bandwidth is so full I feel like I’m about to short circuit.

From my wedding that is in 39 days (gulp) and my Goddess gathering (aka bachelorette party) this weekend that I needed to plan (control freak much), to trying to kick this cold, to being there for my partners and holding space for what they may be going through (which lately can be a lot), to working with clients, to filling workshops and retreats and making a living doing what I love, it can get a bit overwhelming.

Good lord just writing it stresses me out.

We all have those moments where it’s too much and we need a break.

Thing is I just had a 5 day break a week ago. Clearly it wasn’t enough.

So what do you do when you simply need to tend to a lot of things at once and you have the personality where you like to take most of it on yourself because you know if you do it it will get done the way you want it to (the right way of course)?

Here goes my list that I am making so I can take my own advice and destress myself and declutter my brain…

1. Strong Boundaries When You Can

In busy times of high volume you may not be able to say no as much as you want. Shit needs to get done.

But there are usually things that don’t need your attention right this second.

Find those moments where you can say no and have some extra time for yourself. Sometimes it’s simply something you no longer have to think about.

Remember thinking about shit takes up a LOT of energy.

2. Pump Up Your Self Care 

Busy times often equal stressful times. So before things get too intense make sure you have your self care plan in check.

And know that it will probably need to be more than you usually do. Here in lies the paradox. You have less time so how can you give more of it to self care?!

Thing is stressed out time is not nearly as productive as clear, focused time. As much as we like to fight this it’s true.

Taking a bit more time for self care will benefit us in the end. Just make sure it’s the self care you actually need. Be discerning and honest with yourself.

3. Delegate (AKA Ask for Help) 

I am definitely the kind of person who likes to do things myself. And sometimes this really feels like my best bet.

My thought it why waste energy with a middle person when I have strong opinions of how I want something? The struggle is real.

But there needs to be areas where you can get help when you need it. Hire someone. Ask a friend.

Then let them actually do it. And that might mean choosing a few things where you aren’t as picky and you can let down your expectations a bit. Something’s got to give.

Please note. I suck at number 3 when it comes to my personal life.

4. Remember Why You are Doing What You are Doing

It’s easy to get caught up in the planning of something and get so consumed that you forget about it’s purpose. My fiance’ and I try to take moments to connect with what we are planning and why it is so important to us.

Taking those moments can reground you into your purpose and intention and this can help you soften your grip on whatever it is that’s got your undies in a knot.

5. Consider Why You are Stressed in the First Place

Expectations. When we get stressed it’s usually because whatever we want to happen isn’t or at least not fast enough.

So what would happen if you softened the agenda a bit? Good lord this one is tough. Like my caterer needs to get paid and I need to reach out to those people who still haven’t RSVP’d ect ect.

So I get it. But still, where can you soften and trust?

6. Trust Trust Trust

Things will work out. They always do. And when they don’t it leads you to something else better in the long run. So trust.

Ok so there’s my list that was really just a pep talk to myself. It actually helped. I’m going to go follow this now. I hope it helps you too.

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